an alphabet of thanks “S”

Scarves.  I’m thankful for scarves. I have at least thirty of them.  Many of them, I’ve knitted or crocheted myself. For a number of years, I made scarves for our local rescue mission.  I’m not bragging but I’m a “speed” knitter. It only takes me a couple of hours and it’s a great way to use up leftover yearn.

I’ve been fortunate in that I’ve done a fair amount of traveling because of hubby’s mucho, and I do mean mucho, frequent flyer miles.  I have scarves from all over the world.  Some of them are so big, I’ve used them as table runners. I’ve also bought many, many scarves as presents.

I have to say, I’m glad I like scarves  because it’s the only thing I could afford when we traveled..  It kind of helped me keep my focus and not look at those items I couldn’t afford anyway. Some of my scarves I don’t wear much as I they don’t serve me well right now . But I don’t get discard them. Their beautiful colors and textures remind me of all the beautiful places I’ve seen- the “textures” of the people, the cities, the landscape.

Plus, scarves hide a not-so-perfect chin and neck.  They add a lot to an outfit. In fact, they sometimes make the outfit. In the winter, I always wear a scarf because it finishes the “look”. But in the summer, I can’t bring myself to wearing them although a chiffon or silk scarf in the evening would be ok.

So today I’m thankful for all my beautiful scarves and the memories they bring to mind every time I wear them.

what ever happened to Thanksgiving?

Seriously. What ever happened? Are we such a selfish people that we can’t set aside one day to spend time with family and friends and be thankful for our blessings? And even if you can’t find a lot to be thankful for, the fact that you are living in this great United States should be reason to pause.

We can’t blame all the stores that are now opening on Thanksgiving day rather than the day after. After all, they’re just responding to what they think the consumers want.

Or are they?

We’re often told that the media, for example, is only giving us what we want. But I don’t want graphic sex, extreme violence, or foul language, and neither does anyone I know, whether they are younger or older. The same holds true for stores opening on Thanksgiving. I haven’t talked to one person that thinks it’s a good idea.

But the answer is so simple. Don’t shop on Thanksgiving. Don’t attend movies that don’t meet your standards and walk out of them when you are blind sided.

I’m just getting plain tired of others telling me what I need, think, or want. I’m tired of having to turn off a TV show because decency has vanished along with the actor’s clothes or where the language is so bad I seriously question the intelligence of the writers. Let’s face it, it takes little intelligence to use common, vulgar words. Quite the contrary. We really are getting dumb and dumber.

And now we are being led to be financially dumb as well. No, there will be no better deals on Thanksgiving day than there will be in the weeks that follow. I’ve watched the ads for years and except for a couple of “doorbuster” items (which there are never more than one or two in stock anyway), nothing is cheaper on Black Friday. Nothing will be cheaper on “Black Thursday” either.

I’m staying home on Thanksgiving. I’m enjoying my family and friends. I’m going to eat leftovers and read the ads for Black Friday. Yes, I do like Black Friday. Not because I ever buy anything but because it’s just fun to watch all the insane people who have been led to think they need, they really, really,  need, the latest and the best. Sometimes I get caught up in the insanity of it all but it’s never because an advertiser has convinced me of anything.

I’m a really hard sell.

(Let’s have some feedback here. I’m including a poll. I’ll publish results.}


what comes around goes around

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God can really upset the apple cart, can’t he? As you know I am a Christian. I believe God directs me when I ask but that he also directs me even when I don’t ask. Today was such a day. I was supposed to take my mom to a movie. She hasn’t been out of the house much for months. As it turned out the movie was no longer playing. It was a beautiful day and with this change of plans, I was looking forward to working in my gardens. I shouldn’t say work, because it’s never work to me. But then my mother decided she wanted to go shopping. Still, I thought this won’t take long. She’s usually eager to come home after only a couple of hours. Not today. We were gone most of the afternoon.

She usually buys nothing. Today, she bought three new pairs of pants, three new tops and a pair of shoes. I was so glad she did. It was good to see her show an interest in life and be good to herself. But for the first hour or so, all I could think of was how much I wanted to be playing in my yard. I am ashamed to admit that. Ashamed to admit I begrudged her even a moment of my time. Why I’m letting all of you know this, I’ll never know. Except that maybe you’re feeling embarrassed about something you’ve done as well.

We shouldn’t though, should we? I mean I did the right thing. I just didn’t want to do the right thing, But the Bible says motives are important. I need to have some much needed quiet time with God as my feelings are all over the place. I’m glad I did what was right but I’m not happy my feelings took a while to catch up. I’m also glad God looks at me in love and lets me start all over. Now I need to extend that forgiveness to someone in my life.

Maybe that’s what today is all about. I need to remember I’m human. I don’t always get it right. I don’t have to be harder on myself than God is and he’s already forgiven me. There’s someone in my life I’m having hard angry feelings towards now. She’s human, too. Maybe if I let myself off the hook, I can let her off the hook as well.

I love the saying “What goes around, comes around.” It’s not always true but in the case of forgiveness, it is.


why can’t I find jeans that fit?


The denim fabric of a jeans

The denim fabric of a jeans (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


We women face many important issues.  What color shoes to wear with what outfit? What color lipstick? What moisturizer.  Whether we should color our hair or not? Bangs or no? What length skirt? What style bathing suit? (almost the worst). But in the final analysis:

It’s all about the jeans!

Let’s face it, it’s our go-to outfit.  We probably wear jeans more than any other single piece of clothing other than our underwear. But getting them to fit? It is just me? Does anyone else have a hard time finding the perfect fitting jeans?  I HATE trying on jeans.It’s the most frustrating activity ever! I would rather try on shoes. And if you’re thinking what’s the big deal with that, I should tell you I’ve had four foot surgeries so shoe shopping is a nightmare. But nothing, absolutely nothing, compares with jeans shopping. They never fit the way I want them to.





They’re either:



too long,



too short,



too low-waisted,



too high-waisted,

too big waisted,



too tight,



too loose,



too dark,



too light,



and finally, too expensive.



All I can say is thank goodness the weather is getting warmer and I can ditch the jeans for a few months.